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		<title>Domestic Abuse &#8211; at war</title>
		<link>http://thinkingwoman1.wordpress.com/2009/10/27/domestic-abuse-at-war/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 27 Oct 2009 22:01:20 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[The overriding result of war is mass destruction and loss of life. No matter who&#8217;s fighting or who is defending. Divorcing an abusive partner is tantamount to war. You don&#8217;t put yourself there, he does. That&#8217;s his game &#8211; if-I-can&#8217;t-have-you-and-have-things-my-way-I&#8217;ll-destroy-you-and-everything &#8211; mentality. But you find yourself having to fight to defend yourself, stay alive even [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=thinkingwoman1.wordpress.com&blog=3969907&post=436&subd=thinkingwoman1&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Domestic Abuse &#8211; the latest</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 25 Oct 2009 22:56:39 +0000</pubDate>
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		<category><![CDATA[my partner left me in debt]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[i left my abusive partner]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[now my life is hell]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[signing a personal guarantee]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[what happens after you leave an abusive partner]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[turning a situation around]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[making a bad situation good]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[It has been 14 months since I left my abusive marriage.
I received a letter on Thursday (ironically, there was a postal strike and I receive a letter!!!!) from Lloyds Bank telling me I owe them £115,000 and they want me to pay up now or they will take action. Just like that!
Fact is, when I [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=thinkingwoman1.wordpress.com&blog=3969907&post=434&subd=thinkingwoman1&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Domestic Abuse &#8211; coping &#8211; just</title>
		<link>http://thinkingwoman1.wordpress.com/2009/09/24/domestic-abuse-coping-just/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 24 Sep 2009 18:19:28 +0000</pubDate>
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		<category><![CDATA[coping with a nasty ex]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[financial aspects of domestic abuse]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[can I get out of a personal guarantee?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[bankruptcy and divorce]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[when will I get my life back after abuse?]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[I haven&#8217;t blogged here for a while. Been going through another phase in my healing, I guess. Job to know really as everything is sooooo up in the air and chaotic right now. It&#8217;s hard to make any sense of any of it. I know I shouldn&#8217;t but I do keep asking myself those questions: [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=thinkingwoman1.wordpress.com&blog=3969907&post=432&subd=thinkingwoman1&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
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		<title>The Futility of Life with an Abuser</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 21 Aug 2009 21:13:58 +0000</pubDate>
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		<category><![CDATA[divorce costs]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[the financial costs of divorcing an abuser]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[making sense of abuse]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[writing about abuse]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[what happened after I left my abuser]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;ve had a bad week. I fell off the wagon in terms of drinking, comfort-eating and not exercising &#8211; but that came after the &#8216;bad-ness&#8217; started (it was my reaction to it) and (yeah, I know!) made me feel worse, and thus, added to the bad. My ex (as ever) is leading me (and everyone [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=thinkingwoman1.wordpress.com&blog=3969907&post=429&subd=thinkingwoman1&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Emails from a narcissist 2</title>
		<link>http://thinkingwoman1.wordpress.com/2009/07/19/emails-from-a-narcissist-2/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 19 Jul 2009 21:56:32 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Here&#8217;s another one &#8211; it&#8217;s the comment about sandwich fillings that cracks me up:
Why are you hell bent on destroying our marriage?  Why? I am focusing on doing it better and being better and you are thinking of the next bad episode.  Why? You are a moody, bad tempered, brooding, ill mannered person and yet I am [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=thinkingwoman1.wordpress.com&blog=3969907&post=425&subd=thinkingwoman1&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Emails from a narcissist</title>
		<link>http://thinkingwoman1.wordpress.com/2009/07/19/emails-from-a-narcissist/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 19 Jul 2009 21:42:23 +0000</pubDate>
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		<category><![CDATA[traumatic relationships]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[marriage rules]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[taking your partner for granted]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[my partner disrespects me]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[I am going through the emails I kept which my husband sent me, daily, during our brief but traumatic marriage. There is one day in particular 21st July 2007 in which I received thirty two emails in one afternoon, all hateful, bitter and vitriolic. Don&#8217;t ask me why I am doing it, it just feels [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=thinkingwoman1.wordpress.com&blog=3969907&post=422&subd=thinkingwoman1&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Domestic Abuse &#8211; victim no more!</title>
		<link>http://thinkingwoman1.wordpress.com/2009/07/10/domestic-abuse-victim-no-more/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 10 Jul 2009 21:28:54 +0000</pubDate>
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		<category><![CDATA[getting to know myself]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[habits]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[I don't want to be a victim anymore]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[living life fully]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[manifesting the life you want]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[not dead yet]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[noticing who I am]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[personal development]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[realisations]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[things about myself]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[victimisation]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[what am I like?]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;ve noticed something about myself and that is that I tend to come from scarcity when it comes to things of value such as money and love. I tend to &#8216;make do&#8217; with whatever is available because I think that is all there is. I manifest this at work too. I take on too much [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=thinkingwoman1.wordpress.com&blog=3969907&post=369&subd=thinkingwoman1&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
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		<title>The difference between narcissism and self-confidence</title>
		<link>http://thinkingwoman1.wordpress.com/2009/07/07/the-difference-between-narcissism-and-self-confidence/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 07 Jul 2009 08:39:05 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Thinking Woman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[equality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[am I married to a narcissist?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[the narcissistic lover]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[what is self-confidence?]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Check out Sam Vaknin (you can get there via melove54, top of the page &#8211; link to YouTube video &#8211; or go to YouTube), self-proclaimed narcissist. Jees! That&#8217;s my husband! Well, not literally &#8211; I was not married to Sam Vaknin but the characteristics of him and my abusive ex are identical: the portrayal of [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=thinkingwoman1.wordpress.com&blog=3969907&post=416&subd=thinkingwoman1&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Relationships</title>
		<link>http://thinkingwoman1.wordpress.com/2009/07/03/relationships/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 03 Jul 2009 09:42:57 +0000</pubDate>
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		<category><![CDATA[love]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[forgiveness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[what are relationships about]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[what is marriage about]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[21st century marriages]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[what does marriage mean?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[what is love?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[finding meaning in relationships]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[why do people abuse?]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Until recently (latter part of the 20th century), relationships were about survival and continuing the human race, I believe. My Grandparents got married because she needed a man to bring home the money that they used to buy food and put a roof over their heads and he needed a home-maker who would support him [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=thinkingwoman1.wordpress.com&blog=3969907&post=414&subd=thinkingwoman1&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Finding Love</title>
		<link>http://thinkingwoman1.wordpress.com/2009/06/28/finding-love/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 28 Jun 2009 23:53:48 +0000</pubDate>
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		<category><![CDATA[the affair]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[ 
This guy has come back into my life, having been out of it for the duration of my abusive marriage, and I’m not sure what to make of it. I’m into there being meaning to everything at the moment – nothing happens by accident. It’s all meant to be. And so everything has to have [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=thinkingwoman1.wordpress.com&blog=3969907&post=407&subd=thinkingwoman1&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
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